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My sister has been sewing and making amazing dresses for a long time now.

For all those years and till date, she had always offered to teach me like a million times but, I never showed interest.

I remember this time I finally agreed to learn but guess what, I showed up at her space with a pillow and blanket.

She gave this sarcastic laughter and I did too because deep down, I knew I wasn’t serious.

Anytime she has a lot of work, she always wish I could help.

There was this time she traveled for months and I had an event to attend plus, I needed an outfit.

I don’t know how to control a sewing machine or even cut a fabric. I had chances to learn but I wasn’t interested.

Few weeks back, she was working on some dresses and she gave me a scissors and a fabric to help cut out some petals.

It was a very easy thing to do but I couldn’t do it and then I realized we only get better at things when we put in more effort and show some level of interest.

My story balls down to ourselves as humans.

There are things we do effortlessly and see results immediately but, there are things we put more effort in but because the interest we have in it is very low, we do not always get it right or see the kind of results we need.

Our Jobs, businesses, skills, friendships, relationships, projects, and so many other things suffer at some point because the interest we should have on them is not there.

Interest makes one wants to learn, explore, and express creativity in different spheres.

You get to connect with people with shared interest as you.

You develop new interests, you always become eager to show the world what you can do, what you’ve learnt, and how you could solve problems through your creativity.

It’s never too late to explore or learn.

Be intentional about it.

Do not be afraid or feel timid out there.

YOU CAN DO IT RIGHT❤️

When I started writing about mental health, I got inspired by people around me.

Daily, I see people going through so much but always keep a smile.

Anytime I ask the question “how are you doing? “

I always get the “I am fine” response 

To be honest, I am one of those people 🙂

Most times, we carry burdens too heavy for us and then fall when it gets too heavy.

It’s men’s mental health awareness month and I wonder if men also go through mental health issues.

While growing up, I used to see only the women going through a lot of issues but the men always smile and make sure things go well especially in homes.

As I grew older, I discovered there are men who go through a lot of things.

Both the married and unmarried men.

These men go through rejection, pressure from family and friends, problems from work and home, decision making, and a lot of other problems.

As a man, you have to always be strong no matter what happens.

If a man opens up about his problems, the man is labeled “weak” by the society so he keeps to himself.

Dear men, it is very okay to seek help from a mental health specialist when needed.

You are not weak but strong when you seek help.

The society may talk down on you for being vulnerable or soft but, you grow stronger when you accept that you are mentally drained and need help.

Stay strong 

Don’t be afraid to open up

You are loved and appreciated 

Your decisions shouldn’t be from pressure

Never put your life on a hold

Be motivated

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Rejection means a lot of things from different perspectives.

It comes with a lot of emotions we have to deal with.

The funny thing is, some people grew with it from childhood to adulthood while some met it along the way.

Rejection does not have to come from the big things, it comes from the very little things too.

Rejection from family, colleagues, friends, society, or partners is a very painful and devastating state to be in but, how you respond says if you want to heal from it or remain where it met you.

Rejection affects one’s self worth and esteem. You begin to think there’s something wrong with you or maybe you are not just good enough.

As a child, you begin to see life in a different perspective. You start to grow in your own world filled with so many pictures and traumas that grows with you to a point you build a strong wall around you in fear of being rejected again.

You become scared of attachments which results to you pushing people away when they try to get close..Hey!!! This happens to adults too.

Oh yes, someone is already trying to figure out why some people behave the way they do. Rejection is a whole lot of weight to carry but, you could make that weight very light by being intentional about your mental health.

Personally, I feel why people get sick (in all areas) after being rejected by anyone or anything is the fact that there was no communication whatsoever to why there was a “Rejection“ in the first place.

Communication within yourself and communication from other parties. It feels difficult but, that’s the first step to getting healed.

Sadly, everyone has in one way or the other experienced rejection.

it is said that, the brain response to rejection is similar to physical pain.

It is even more painful if you are a very sensitive person. It hits differently.

You practically live in self denial and rejection because your brain can not carry it all. You become psychologically, mentally, and emotionally sick.

That’s the point you need to get up and face yourself and those “DEMONS”

Accept the rejection. it’s going to really be a hard one but that’s even a bigger step.

Allow yourself to feel it in anyway.

Understand it. Ask yourself questions.

Where did this rejection come from?

How did it happen?

How should I take it?

Should I keep living in it or get back on my feet and face it?

Never ever blame yourself. That’s a wrong thing to do when faced with rejection.

It’s not always about you or your flaws.

Love yourself. Don’t be hard on yourself. Allow people that genuinely love, respect and care for you around you.

Don’t chase them away.

If it requires you seeking professional help, please… do that immediately.

The best part… Always remember God never rejects you regardless.

Last year wasn’t the best or perfect year for me but regardless, I still had so many reasons to smile because a queen or a king cannot be drained just like that🙂.

Being someone that overthinks almost everything, I have always had to deal with so many thoughts.

If you are in this same shoes, I bet you can relate perfectly. Sometimes, you want to just live outside your thoughts and just be free but again, you cannot run away from them.

You have to face them and fight them.
Thoughts are very powerful!

They develop in time when you give room for them to be nurtured.

The past year, I had to fight them physically, mentally, spiritually, and psychologically. Believe me, it wasn’t a pleasant one.

At some point, I gave in to them because my mind had already accommodated them. My mind became so occupied with too many unnecessary garbage I allowed.

I was mentally sick but, physically stressed and that was because I couldn’t carry the weight any longer.
But, you know what?
I realized I became so sad about things I couldn’t figure out. Things I don’t even know where they came from.

I also figured it was the devil playing tricks on me.
One day, I stood in front of my mirror and spoke to myself.
I asked myself why I allowed myself to accept defeat.

How did I ever get here?
Why did I ever allow my thoughts and mind to cloud over me?

So many questions I asked myself looking into my eyes through the mirror I was standing in front of.

And then, I called my name and told myself that I am not weak but the strong woman that I have always been.

I proclaimed positive words to myself and afterwards, I became so happy with myself but, there’s one thing that kept me bound..DOUBT!!!

something I had to fight again.

DOUBT is a very terrible thing that can keep you far away from the manifestations of things you BELIEVE.

I had to pray really hard and also read spiritual books that I am thankful for. For a moment, my mindset changed again.

I began to proclaim and confess things I want to see for myself.
I called out things I wasn’t seeing and believing I could see into existence.
Let me tell you something…

The only voice you should listen to is GOD when faced with challenges especially when you have a strong believe about a thing.
it’s okay to seek advise from family and friends but, what if their ‘believe’ is not same as yours?

You might say to a friend that you need a million for something but, you do not have it at that particular time but you believe it’s coming.
Imagine the friend laughing at you. It doesn’t mean the friend is a bad person nooo..the difference between you and that friend is ‘believe’.
This taught me a lot…

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